By Simona Rusnakova

In modern society the quality of our lives is supposed to be getting better as society in general improves. I suppose if we look back 30 or 40 years ago we would not like to go back to how they lived, without all the modern conveniences like cars, washing machines, travel, holidays etc. however one of the drawbacks of modern life seems to be that we have less time for ourselves and others. For example if you’re part of an international sales team very often you will spend a lot of time travelling from country to country, this sounds great but this type of lifestyle doesn’t have the time for family life or taking care of elderly parents. You don’t have to be part of an international sales team to be under this type of pressure to take care of your family needs, as a lot of modern jobs especially in high level management often takes too much of your personal time.

We have to stop and think about how we are going to take care of the elderly population? In each of our family structure we all have to provide some resources to take care of our parents or relatives in their time of need. Even though it’s obvious to say but who is going to take care of us when we grow old? The answer to this question can be complicated and often will take a whole family working together to resolve it, if it can be resolved. As taking care of your elderly parents, relatives or friends can pose difficult issues to be resolved but it is something we have to take the time to consider and not dig our heads in the sand and hope the problem will go away. Even if the only thing you can do is pay for a nursing home type of environment, you have to think of where the money is going to come from in later years. As you need to plan not only for your parents but also yourself and your kids sometimes this can be overbearing.

There is no doubt about it that caring for the elderly and sick cannot be done without doctors nurses, hospitals, nursing homes etc. However when patients are able to leave the health environment and go to their home very often they will need extra care sometimes extra equipment. Health services are now very good as giving some services to friends and relatives that are willing to take care of people in the home situation. Like everything in recession early times one has to fight harder for any help that they require. As budgets are getting smaller and resources are drying up there isn’t the same amount of help now than there was a year ago. This does not mean that we just accept it but it can mean that we lobby and fight for what we think is necessary under the circumstances.

In a lot of cases there are real needs to be taken care of, patients may need wheelchairs, walking aids, lifting aids, physiotherapy and much more. If you believe like I do a friend or relative will recover much quicker in the home environment then you will do your best to make that happen. Even though the quality of care is getting much better in nursing homes and hospitals there is nothing better than a patient being at home in a familiar environment. How often have you said yourself even after being away on holidays that there is nothing like home, imagine what this is like if you’re not in the full of your health?

About the Author: This article was written by Fergal Tully of http://www.healthtrainingunitedcare.ie – Home Care Courses – home care courses, healthcare training, health care courses in Dublin.

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By April Lentini

It happens to everyone with parents. One day, it will be time to take care of those who raised you. Retirement homes have long been the choice for busy families that don’t have the time or the room to care for their folks. But there are other options. If you plan ahead, you hook your mom and dad up with an agreeable living situation that will make you happy, them happy, and will not break your budget.

I recently quit my job at a retirement home. By all appearances, it was a very nice retirement home. The first thing you saw when you walked in was a large elegant dining room, a winding staircase, and a grand piano in the middle of a sky-lit atrium. The average age of residents was eighty five years old, and while it was considered “independent living” most of the residents were dependent. They depended on staff to prepare them three meals a day, they depended on the bus driver for transportation (since many had given up driving) and they even depended on an activity director to schedule ways for them to pass their time (that was my job). These services were selling points for the facility, and families were willing to pay an average of four thousand ($4,000) dollars a month so mom and dad could play bingo and bridge in a nicely furnished community. Because this facility was considered independent living, the rent did not cover health services.

In the year that I worked there, I got to know many of the residents. They confided in me. I learned that many of the seniors never really felt like it was their home or even a suitable replacement. Despite the extravagant landscaping, it was still institutionalized living. A lot of them hated the food. Some were even pretending to be happy just for their children. OK, some old folks are just cranky, and you can’t please them no matter what. But regardless, I couldn’t help the feeling that in many ways, retirement homes are completely unnecessary and even a waste of money.

In today’s tight economy, it’s time to be creative and resourceful when it comes to finding a home for Mom and Dad. Rather than committing your parents (or grandparents) to expensive retirement institutions, consider these housing alternatives.

Make room at home

(Seriously.)

Up until the second half of the 20th century, this is how people lived! Multiple generations lived under one roof. Make room in the basement. Convert the garage into another bedroom. Or simply plan ahead now and buy a bigger house than you need. Ever notice how big houses were in the 19th century? That’s because families actually lived together. They were much more unified than they are today. In the old days, it was not unusual to have granny answer the door in her curlers. In fact, in many households, grandparents had an important and useful role in the family. I’m not sure what changed, but somehow Americans became embarrassed by their elderly relatives. It’s time be proud of our families again –no matter how senile they may be!

Of course having your parents live with you works extremely well if you actually get along with them. I lucked out having really cool folks. But it can be done even if you have differences. Just make sure you have enough space for privacy. My parents are not even retired yet, but my husband and I have decided that our next house will be designed to accommodate them when the time comes. We will have an in-law suite (on the first floor of course) or a separate cottage on our property. It’s important to make sure the space is accessible with walkers and wheelchairs. In my opinion, it’s never too early to consider a house with extra space for aging relatives. You can always make use of the space in the meantime by renting it out, hosting an exchange student, or housing your teenage kids.

Buy the house next door

(Hire home health care services as needed.)

Keep property in the family. On a business trip in Greece, I made friends with a local colleague. Before going out to dinner, she invited me to her brand new condo to meet her family. Her family lived in separate condos, but literally owned the whole building. Her great grand parents lived in the condo on the first floor, her grand parents lived on the second floor, her parents lived on the third floor and she had just gotten the deed to the fourth floor where her and her new husband lived. Why pay over four thousand ($4,000) dollars a month on a small apartment in a retirement home, when you can purchase the house next door (or the apartment below you?) Most mortgage payments are considerably cheaper than rent at a retirement community and plus your money goes toward an investment. Not to mention the sense of true independence this will provide your parents. Old people like to have their own things too.

Understandably, some seniors need special care. In this case you can hire a home health service! There are enough services out there for you to choose from a la carte. Many private health services provide drivers, nurses, and housekeepers as needed. Decide what services you and your parents really need to spend money on and employ a private company. There are many such services. You can find them online or just go to your nearest “independent living” retirement home and look through the multitude of home health care brochures. Otherwise, if your parents are close enough, you can provide meals for them and take them shopping. Of course there may be a time when seniors require full-time nursing care for serious illnesses, but in the meantime, why pay for three meals a day at Sleepy Hollow Retirement when you can keep real estate in the family?

Encourage your parents to move to a big city.

(Especially a city you would want to visit!)

For the more active retirees, there are options for adventure. If you have the kind of parents that can’t stand to be still, you may consider packing them up and sending them off. The complaint I heard to most when working in a retirement home was how much the residents missed their cars. They hated giving up their wheels and missed being able to go wherever they want when they want. Subsequently, there is an increasing trend of seniors moving to large cities so they can take advantage of public transportation. While many people have sprawled out to the suburbs, it makes sense for driving impaired seniors to choose an urban setting. living in the heart of a metropolitan area means you don’t need a car, plus there are many things to do and see.

Send your parents to college.

If your parents have an active mind, think about getting them a dorm on a college campus. That’s right, some colleges are now catering to seniors and even offering free classes and discounts on amenities such as golf and tennis. Who needs bingo night when you can take a French class, go to a football game, or see a theatre performance? Research has shown that mental activity may prevent dementia. So, for those seniors considering an "institutional lifestyle," they may as well choose a college campus over a retirement home. The cost of senior dorms vary. Depending on the housing package, some dorms may be just as expensive as retirement homes. But hey, if you plan on forking out rent for a home, renting a room on a lively college campus sure beats the activity department of any retirement home.

Help your parents escape the country.

Retiring abroad may be an appealing choice for seniors who are looking to stretch their dollars. If they insist on enlisting in a retirement community, look at places like Mexico. In fact, many retirement homes in Mexico cater to the American market. One major pitfall of course, is that you won’t get to see them as often. But look at it this way, you’d have a cool place to visit. A few years ago, a lady from England made news for choosing to live out her golden years on a cruise ship. 86-year-old Bea Muller of Florida was aboard the Queen Elizabeth 2 in 2000 when her husband died. She didn’t want to move back home to live alone and she didn’t want to live in a retirement home. So, she decided to sell everything and book herself for a world cruise one year at a time. In her case, with all the amenities, it actually worked out cheaper than assisted living.

Of course there may be that rare instance where your parents insist on living in a retirement home. They may actually want to have a 400 square foot apartment, collect "funny money," endure Elvis impersonators, and rely on a one-size-fits all activity calendar for fun. But this is doubtful. Most people want to remain as independent as possible for as long as they can. Most people want to be an active member of a family or community. No matter how old and senile, there are certainly plenty of options for giving them that opportunity outside a cookie-cutter retirement home.

About the Author: April is a freelance writer living in Atlanta. Her website is: www.aprillentini.com

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by Scott Patterson

A lot of men have no idea of how to flirt with girls. By listening to all of the bad advice floating around the web gets men slapped on the face and drinks spilled on them. It is important for a man to create an attraction with the girl if he wants to further a relationship or pick a girl up. There are a few tips you can follow to help with your approach and flirtation with girls.

1. You must stay relaxed: Women are like animals, they can smell fear and women hates a man without confidence. If you have accomplished a date with a girl, don’t screw it up at dinner or while you’re at home watching a movie together. By stressing on how to get the girl to like you may end up making her dislike you instead. Before you begin the flirting process, take a breather and relax yourself. Flirting is meant to be fun and when done right, can really increase the attraction in the relationship. When you are tense, you’re flirting will seem forced and unnatural and you won’t be able to have fun.
2. It’s okay to be a little cocky; try being funny too: Girls love a confident man and even more, she loves a man that can make her laugh. You may hear of tips about flirting that suggest men to be cocky; this is regarding your confidence. Don’t act shy when you approach a girl you are interested in. If you feel uncomfortable with flirting with her, take yourself back to middle school and tease her a bit. Make sure the insults are light; you don’t want to get her angry. It needs to be fun and show her that you are not afraid and that you can goof around.
3. Flirting doesn’t come easy to everyone: It is a known fact that not every man is capable of flirting with ease. For others, it will take practice and knowing what does and doesn’t work. Once you see that you are able to flirt with girls successfully, you will be more attuned to doing so. Try flirting with many girls; keep your game fresh. Just because you succeeded with a couple, doesn’t mean you will do so with all. Whenever you get the chance to flirt, do it! Soon you’ll know the mechanisms of a girl and know beforehand what kind of girl she is and what would make her smile and accept your flirtatious invitation.

Flirting isn’t something that is difficult. It is all in your frame of mind. If you make yourself believe that it is an impossible task, you will make it into just that. Flirting is supposed to be fun, so don’t turn it into something that has to be complicated. Don’t give up when a girl turns you down, just look at it like a life’s lesson to flirting. If you have friends that are great at flirting with girls, watch them at work. You don’t have to ask them for tips and advice, just watching them in action should be enough.

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